TRAPPED,NAMED & SHAMED....MAKDEE KE JAAL MEIN!

Am sure that most of you in India know what I am talking about.

To the uninitiated, a young actress who won the best acting accolade in the country,namely the National Award for Best Actress, was recently arrested as part of a high class Prostitution ring.

So, why is my post called Named & Shamed? That's because the media had a fabulous field day,tearing her dignity by naming her and shaming her. At poking at the reasons why she did all this.

But HELLO, to make a prostitute a prostitute,you need a man between her legs. Why isn't even ONE of her clients been named and shamed? Why has the police and media very conveniently hushed up those names??

So the prostitution ring was a High Class Ring. Which mean big well known names. So does that make it their birth right to get away scot free?  In the male chauvinistic world of India, is the man protected whatever the crime? Anywhere else,the clients would be named.

The media,which otherwise is always looking into Sansani details,why are they now not using their skills to name the clients ? Oops I forgot. These men have money and power and not to forget a long suffering wife in most cases.

Media is so biased,even the women journalists were ripping apart the woman's name & her past. As a fellow woman,they forgot that to have sex, u need two people.So why no efforts to find those names?

I appreciate men like Hansal Mehta who offered the girl a job.She did go into the oldest professional in the world because she wasn't  getting any more roles and hence no money. I appreciate men like Mukesh Chhabra who spoke up and spoke up well for her.

Justice will be served in truth when the clients are named and shamed.

After all,it takes 2 to Tango.....Oops....toss around a bed.

God Forbid ! A Visit To The Hospital!

Aching limbs

Tired eyes

Patience stretched thin

Long lines

Efficiency deficient

Snail leaves slime

Down comes the sun

But line is a line!

ROUGH SANDS ON LIFE's SHORE

Drifting sands on the seashore,
Winds blow shut doors
Whether u sink
Or whether u stand,
Is in your hands,
As you walk down life's shore.

Life isn't kind
Sands are rough
On dry naked feet
Whether you sink
Or whether u stand,
Is in your hands
As you walk down life's shore

When harsh winds blow,
Hold hands with dear souls,
With firm friends,
Whether you sink
Or whether you stand,
Is in your hands
As you walk down life's shore

When the soul breaks

When the body just breaths

Take a good look on all that has passed

Whether you sink

Or whether you stand

Is in your hands

As you walk down life's shore

INDIA FORUMS, YOU CAN'T SHUT US ALL UP!

This is a post that I made on IF earlier this evening :

"Direct Link

ReportQuotePosted: 16 June 2014 at 4:24am | IP Logged

Heard rumours that members are getting banned on the orders of certain people. 

So I thought I rather hear it from the horses' mouth :

ON WHAT GROUNDS CAN I BE BANNED?

No, I haven't been warned or anything. Just curious whether this is a forum for members,by members or whether I will get banned on the wimp and fancy of non-members.

I am sure this topic will be closed and no answer shall be received.

But if I do get an answer, it sure would be nice.

Edited by VixenCatVsc94 - 16 June 2014 at 4:28am"

And now the post is deleted!!

Anyone who has read the posts on my blog will know, I call a spade a spade.

Whether it is because IF owner knows an actor and obliges him by banning members, I think a chance SHOULD be given to the members who endured the cyber bullying, the ones who got shut up for saying plain & simple honest truth A CHANCE to say their side.

LINES CROSSED, MOTHERHOOD TOSSED!

Desi serials. What do I say about them?

They have a life of their own. Logic rarely has anything to do with Desi shows. Like someone once said "Better lock up your brain before you watch a Desi show"!

The show I currently watch #EkMutthiAasmaan is currently in one of its "Toss Aside Thine Brain" phases.

Which brings me to the title. LINES CROSSED,MOTHERHOOD TOSSED.

Launched on the "unique" idea of following the life and tribulations of a maid servant, it has post TWO leaps (a weapon writers and channel use when the writer has a writer's block,but doesn't get sacked for non-performance) arrived at the altar of  Holy Matrimony.....Ooops....I meant Holier than thou mother overdose.

Unlike other shows (kuch toh unique hai), there is no scorpion on the forehead as a bindi & no massive red bindi either.

But these 3 mothers would try the patience of any MOTHER Superior!

Allow me to introduce - Kamla - afore said maid servant. Now mother of kids who are adults. But hell if anyone dares think for themselves! Kamla showers upon them the innumerable Kamla Commandments. Truth is viewed,at all times,the way she wants to see. A trait that went straight through breast milk,to her employer's daughter. The love between them,is so annoying that I get vibes of a rather Gay Jodi! In all things, Kamla sees only Porky's (real name Pakhi) side. Now she is the mother of a daughter herself, but DAMNED if she remembers ever carrying that child for 9 months.
Kalpana has grown up feeling second best,not good enough and her mother insists on giving her second hand time.....you see, some asinine IDIOT thinks that it will make Kalpana isssstrong!
Despite Porky being in a love less marriage,Dumbla insists on the hubby will Change. Never mind if the husband in question is MADLY in love with Kalpana.

Next comes Gauri. With a maligned character and many years of falling in front of various cars,she hid from her husband's murders.

Third is Neetu. Murderess par Excellance, crass & an ornamental mother of Porky.

Combine these together,you get the BEST migraine inducers in the industry.

Kamla with her Dumbmandments,her Porky obsession, Gauri with revenge on her mind and Neetu digging rubbish out of bins eat so much airtime,that saying prayers on the knees all day at the nunnery may be less "painful"!

Sufferers in the middle,the  Jodi..the couple...Raghav & Kalpana. Driven mad by his love for Kalpana and the blackmailing Gauri, he smears enough sindoor on Kalpana's head ,that she officially can be called Red Head.

Today we shall see all the mothers and their Pontification at the pulpit....oops....temple.

We will see how channels & writers,kill the very pure essence of motherhood.

Each mother selfish,each to her own goal. Each forgetting that motherhood means putting your child always before you. For the story to stretch, we will see everything a normal mother would never do. Which makes me wonder if it's men writing such characters for serials or spinster women?

I shall write more on this devilish Triamvirate as the story goes along.

Sad am I and so many others, at the lines crossed and motherhood tossed.

SHREDDED FLOWERS,A MAN & A WOMAN's SHREDDED PRIDE

For watchers of Desi serials, has there ever been a peaceful, non-hate Bara first Suhaag Raat?

How many TIMES have we seen the groom bristling with anger or hurt or jealousy or wounded pride or the all time favourite REVENGE ? What does he do?

Drags the girl like a cow around the Agni,furiously tie red or black thread or if you are super lucky, a Mangalsutra round her neck and again drag her to his bedroom?

I have seen that in 3 straight Desi serials and mind you,this is out of the four I watched!

Why is it that every Channel and Production House creative thinks that this THRILLS their audience?? Do they themselves get turned on, when they see the groom tear the flower bedecked bed on which the Suhaag Ki Raat should take place? Do they really think,every viewer will be whistling at this masochistic display????

Show after show after show, the first marriage is always a display of male anger,temper, supposed feeling of hurt & jealousy or revenge. Why???

Is it not possible, that a couple be married in peace & then together face the challenges of life? Are these lame Repititive tracks sanctioned by a masochistic channel or the signs of lack of fresh ideas in every single writer of shows? Some of these writers are women, yet they write daily degradation of their own kind??

I await the day when women stop being treated as animals heading for the slaughter house, on their "golden nite" - for ideas that don't degrade women all the time - for no more shredded jasmine flowers & rose petals to be strewn on the floor by a hot tempered groom.

Heck,the feminist in me would LOVE to see the bride do the dragging,insulting and throwing a fit for a change!!

CAN DARK BE BEAUTIFUL? OR JUST A CURSE?

Rather stark and rude title some might say. But then I don't write my thoughts clad in kitten gloves.

What triggered it some might ask. What else than stereotypical Desi thinking?

I watch a serial #EkMutthiAasmaan in which, two women get mothered by a common person. One as a much neglected daughter and the other as a over pampered ,tantrummy charge.

The ladies in question are BLACK AND WHITE.

Oh,for god sake's I am not talking of that cheap whiskey!!

They are chalk and ebony. One dark,pretty,with gorgeous eyes that positively GLOW with joy-de-vivre and the other, fair, bit of a looker but drenched in brattiness & bimboness.

True to Indian prejudice on dark skin,the story shows the darky, Kalpana as unfortunate,long suffering and neglected. To please the obsession for fair skin,the show showers luck,good fortune and  attention on the bimbo,albeit not a Blondie here.

So would it surprise you that the fair girl gets the groom & the darkie is left crying?

Why is India so obsessed with white skin? For how many centuries? Why does Unilever proudly proclaim that 64% of Indian women use Fair & Lovely?

Are we not all same under the colour of our chamdi (skin)? Same blood,same muscle,same bones.....yet fair means better??? And when will such thinking stop???

Why do TV channels fear change so much that they just prefer to nod their heads and dare not do anything different?? They are the best tools to get through to people,yet money means much more than changing prejudices.

As for me,I know a "fair " amount of dark women,who are exquisitely sharp featured,accomplished and beauties ,inside out.

I much rather a dark friend with a lovely heart,than an arrogant fair person who thinks her fairness makes her a nice person.

GET SOME NAIL ART - GO AND VOTE!

For as long as I can remember, voting day for most educated and working class,is treated as a holiday.

People talk of inefficiency,corruption,laziness,difference in thought process etc, but not once do majority of the talkers,DO anything about it.

We grumble & grumble & do nothing. This is a trait,that like our loud behaviour,follows us even if we settle abroad.

Voting comes FREE. You don't have to pay for it. Yes,you have to stand in a queue, but that's once in 5 years,so really don't see what the problem is.

As an adult you have some duties. Voting is one of them. Stop picking on netas and free yourself from your own inefficiency,laziness and indifference. Corruption can only be taken forward by those who have money to corrupt a person. The poor have nothing to give, yet they never shirk from voting!

So get up from that couch,go in your pyjamas if you are lazy, BUT VOTE!

VOTE INDIA VOTE!

CEREBRAL PALSY - WHY I APPRECIATE THIS CLIP

Before I elaborate further, I would request that you please see the video :

http://www.upworthy.com/a-gorgeous-woman-shakes-her-body-on-stage-and-the-crowd-goes-wild?g=2&c=ufb1

Now that you have, I will explain why this clip has touched me so much.

Like Maysoon Zahid, I once looked after a little boy with severe cerebral palsy.

I still remember the first time I met him. He was lying on a mat on the floor,kicking his legs and turned to give me a smile that spoke straight to my heart. He was kicking....but not walking.

I went to his house every day that summer and held him up and taught him how to walk.

Believe me when I say,NOTHING in my life has given me that much joy than I got from seeing him take unsupported steps.

For able bodied people,we take our health for granted. Look down on others who are differently abled. Tease them,humiliate them just like Maysoon said the trolls do.

I know internet gives the courage for the bullies and the meek in real life to get extra brave and insult with aplomb.

But look at Maysoon. She addressed a roomful of what was to HER - differently abled people.

What did they do?

They stood up and clapped for the woman who can't stand without shaking.

Yes,Maysoon, you can can!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SAMMY!

Aries is her name
Being a friend is her fame.
Love u girl is my chorus
Aries ko mera bday ka salaam.

I was hoping to write an ode for you, but then decided, simplicity was better.

We met, we clashed, you unfollowed me & out of the blue was that tweet that you had never seen anyone with a more honest opinion than me.

When that olive leaf was extended, I am glad I wasn't in an egoistic mood. I took the compliment with an open heart and in the process,won a very loyal friend.

There wasn't an hour that we wouldn't chat. Reaching late had become a habit. We managed to keep in touch in different ways and everyday,I learnt more about my Sammy.

Thank you for accepting me as I am. Not expecting me to toe any line (you knew,I wouldn't do it 😜😂🙊) nor ever expecting me to follow any clan,clique or fandom.

Thanks for being you. Loyal,understanding, empathetic and awesome to have around.

I miss our daily interactions yet know you are busy. 

Take care,never ever change for anyone and may god shower his blessings on you always.



HAPPY BIRTHDAY SAMMY!

FANDOMS and My Failure at Being a REAL Fan

I wish I was the kind of fan
That chased every lead,
Every Barber,Every hotel,
Every source,Every journalist & co-star

#ButThatJustIsntME


I have watched Desi shows before. But wasn't active on social platforms. Then came a show Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon.

I went from merely watching the show on YouTube to commenting on it. From there to a dedicated blog...then to Twitter and there I finally learnt many a lesson.

As long as the show was on,I had poems,Shayaris,Symbolism posts,DP creations,commenting....so much to do.

And then the show ended.

Along with it,came the ugly side of fandoms. Camps,curses,scheming and self appointed leaders.

Now these leaders can sway the herd well....from cultured to downright ugly. I have seen it all.

Then the main lead does a movie....then another movie....and Maybe another if he is lucky.

In the process of the former two movies filming & it's subsequent "Almost shelved" current status,I have watched many a non-entity get bloated egos because 1000s of the actor's fans would follow ANYONE for a scrap of news.

I realised,that yes, I was a fan of the character,but I could not stalk anyone and everyone for news for the actor. I just wasn't fan enough. But because I wasn't blinded,I could see that in some ways,such madness could In fact impact an actor negatively too.

Let's hope the man has a release and a successful film......god knows many went with the same dream and returned with their tails between their feet.

Not everyone is a Shahrukh or a Sushant.

Jodha - A Queen Or A Pampered Kid

As evident shows, I am a fan of the show Jodha Akbar.

Though I did not manage to watch the show from the start, I have been avidly following it for the past 4-5 months and based on that and past 2-3 days episodes,here is what I think.

Jodha, for a 15th century Begum of all people, got away with a lot.

Hence I am sitting with the dilemma of how different she actually is from Ruquaiya. They both do what they want and poor Jalal facilitates their desires.

Time and again I have seen Jodha's mother telling her what she should do,how she should behave but Jodha always does what SHE thinks is right.

I wonder at times if she has EVER,heart of hearts,felt she is human and very capable of making mistakes.

In keeping her promise to her rebel brother,will she now lose her husband's trust,love and indulgent behaviour? From what I have watched thus far, that looks a possibility. Do I think she deserves it? Yes.

Though I love Jodha,I also remember she was from the 15th century,not the 21st. I feel it will take losing Jalal completely and possibly being banished to Amer for her Amer obsession to stop. To make her remember,she no longer is Amer's pampered brat but a wife of an Emperor. For her to remember,as per the vows she took,her husband and his concerns MUST come before anything else.

She needs to realise, brothers may come and go,but she may never get Jalal back....EVER!

Once Again Man Failed While Playing God

It's been nigh close to 12 days since MH 370 went missing.

So many of us have spent hours reading every bit of news on this matter. Yet what news do we have thus far of a HUGE jet and 239 human beings? Almost close to nothing.

When you hear of ships & helicopters searching high and low, I wonder who is paying for all this. When search goes from here to there, I wonder where next.
When you hear Straits of Malacca one day and Maldives the next, I wonder why not Malaysia itself.

But in the whole scheme of things you realise ONE thing. Man thinks he has conquered all fields, all frontiers,all mysteries.....yet here is a mystery all the 21st century gadgets have not managed to solve!
We invented and invented and play God everyday.

But God right now,seems the ONLY person who knows what's going on. I really hope for the sake of the families of all aboard that flight, God will choose to shine his light and compassion on all of them and mankind as a whole.

FOR THE SWEETEST JILEBI I KNOW!

I haven't the slightest clue how we became friends.

Was it because I commented on a video, or butted into a conversation , or did I ask you a question?

Whatever it was, the sweetest Jilebi I know,entered my life and many a day ensured I reached work late!

An immensely talented,pretty and a beautiful soul-ed "Jilebi" with whom I would tweet, KIK, DM, Email, comment on YouTube, nag for edits .......

There was never a dearth of subjects for us to discuss,not then,not now.

Happy Birthday Jilebi!

Always remain the same! I know studies are really consuming your time now,but always know I miss yakking to you 24/7 !

There never was,never will be a better Bahuriya Jilebi for me, EVER!

PUNCTUALITY!

This is an art the vast majority of the world has NO clue about!

And I am sorry to say,the people who we trust our lives and in some cases,our deaths with.....NO......NOT Yamraj, the DOCTORS - have NO clue of the P of punctuality!

They are one breed who may do operations on time but an outpatient visit?!!?! So help you God,they ensure you leave the marks of your warm posterior on their chairs!

Medical colleges should have a Punctuality Oath along with the Hippocrates Oath! No medical license unless you prove you are punctual!

YES, A DOCTOR PISSED ME OFF TODAY!

HERO WORSHIP!

Movie rumour just up

And wardrobe ready for shaadi???!!!!

Let the movie be announced,shot,completed & marketed.

#DontCountChicksB4Hatching

Barun Sobti bags movie with John Abraham Productions. Latest frenzy on the twitterospehere!

No official print media announcement, but yet third time in a row,lot of nobodies,have commenced the multibrand buttering of anyone remotely connected to said movie. 

Like a rather wise one said....they take people to the top floor with praises and flattery. Should things NOT go as they thought,the very same people will cut the cable and allow them to sink to 2nd or 3rd level basement.

Yahan sapnom  ke Duniya mein se,chann log hi hai 

https://m.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=737138462971225

WHY AM I NOT FIRST?

Few minutes ago, I read some tweets that asked this very question - Why am I not FIRST in anyone's life ?

This is a feeling I personally feel most of us have felt at some point of our lives. We put our heart and soul into various relationships,be it with parent,siblings,friends,husbands,sons,daughters, etc and yet we feel that they don't give you half as much importance as you give them.

I am no psychologist, but I think,the day man could have an internal meter that instinctive told him "Buddy,this person is just patronising you" or "Stop falling back to do things for this person,you mean nothing to them" humankind will be spared off a LOT of anguish of just not being GOOD ENOUGH!

Satyame Vijayate - Episode 1 - Need for counselling rape survivors.

http://www.satyamevjayate.in/Fighting-Rape/EPISODE-1article.aspx?uid=e1-counselling-v1

For a Friend Who Is Supreme At Masti & Never Fails To Crack Me Up

Chintmanas,

Tussi oonth ho! Ooooops, tussi great ho!

Aur iiyaan hum cleopatra hain. Neck ma thickestwa collar.....nahin goldwa ki nahin.....moldwa ki!

Hum iiyaan wahan faint howath rahi....Rudra banna no ijj catchwa.oohi din ooniparm wash ke liye goneing. And ujjjj know,bitiya ijjj lovewa ooniparm. So nanadh catch karat rahi!

Tohar commentwa may or may not comings here, but me posting thiswa for my priendwa. Hope you saying Hello Hi to  bitiya!

Soul Searching on Valentine's Day

Raite Ki Tereha Hai Meri Zindagi,
Yunhi Bikhar Jaa Rahi Hai,
Kaanch Ke Toote Dukdoan Ki Tereha,
Bikhar Jaa Rahi Hai.

Kaise Likhoan Yeh Dil Ka Dard
Jab Saha Nahin Jata
Kaanch Ke Toote Dukdoan Ki Tereha
Jab Bikhar Jaa Raha Hai Sab

SHE MEANS MORE TO ME THAN A VALENTINE - 14th FEBRUARY

I was recovering a surgery,new to twitter,bored as hell, when suddenly, on my screen popped a question :

"Do you know which episode this scene is from?"

Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon brought along with it,not just a fantastic Jodi, but some of my very,very close friends. And the above question, proved to be the beginning of a wonderful friendship. 

Fangurling,ranting,odes,poems,tears and laughter all followed. But through it all, forged a friendship that needs no show nor actors.


Happy Birthday Aayu.

At this juncture of my life, I wish I had made that visit and hugged you as much as I wanted.

Have a great day,Aayu. May God shower all his blessings on you,now and hamesha.

Aise hi bann Gaye dost hum,
Aise hi bann Gaye dost hum,
Ab therei Bina Jee nahi Sakte,
Chahe din ho ya Raat.

13th February JODHA AKBAR BEAT WOODEN LOG SHOW

Woooo hooooo. Tango,Salsa, Chacha,Dinka Chika time!!

The show that has an excessively overacting Saas named Bhabho and the woodenest female actor I have ever seen, has been TOPPLED off the 1st Position in the TRP scales this week.

I have always firmly believed that the makers rigged the TRP ratings.

Yes, Indian women like nothing more than another woman tortured on screen ( or so it would seem ) but when various shows have better plots, why did the show never lose its place?  Food for thought and reason for investigation!

As a viewer...albeit the educated kind, I much rather watch a show with superb casting,fabulous direction and dialogues than OTT mother in laws and her wooden bindini.

What's not to like of Jalal's loving eyes follow his love Jodha's every movement? Who can resist their nok jhok? Their chemistry which you,convinces they are still alive and not from the past.

For those of you not watching Jodha Akbar,what a shame and what a loss! If you want to see one of the most well made shows of our time, WATCH JODHA AKBAR!

An Un-acknowledged Problem - Depression

Alyssa Day is  a very successful writer. Rich,Happy family etc. The last person others would ever presume to have anything to do with depression.But she did, given below is her story.

More and more people are developing depression owing to work, family issues etc.  Studies have shown that even before people commit suicide,they make several attempts to tell their problems to people and get brushed off.

Do read this article ,understand it and do your best to help someone..

http://tinyurl.com/nphmgjz

Soul Searching 09 February 2014

Akelapan Hai Charoan Oare,
Dard Hai Dil Ke Pas,
Sab Kab Badlega,
Kab Hoga Kuch Khas?

Soul Searching 08 February 2014

Aahista Hai Jeevan Ke Raste,
Doore Hai Mujhe Jaana,
Wapas Kab Aayeinge,
Yeh Kisnein Hai Jaana!